Of course it's working and Of course, you're right for maybe yourself or some other people but this girl destroyed my mental state for months on end. I was manipulated, I struggled so much over the past year. Someone I fell in love totally, changed completely and started to change me, for the worst. I lost weight, I lost my friends for a while and I just felt depressed, she made me feel like it was all my fault so I went to councilling, did (and still doing) meditation to cope with my stress and she just did nothing. It was the hardest decision of my life breaking up with her, because I'm not the kind of person who likes doing that, being mean but I had to be strong and I may be sounding really defensive, but I guess you didn't know what happened on my side of things.