Has anyone ever stopped to ask about what type of country or environment OP is from. I don't have much experience with these stuffs, but it just might not end well if her country or environment permits these behaviours from OP. My mum did suffer and still does suffer some emotional abuses from my dad, but she's insistent on not leaving. I can already imagine the backlash from her leaving because she's never really opened up to her family members about these behaviours of his, so it gonna come as a surprise if she decides to leave, I believe. They had a huge argument a few years ago that our neighbours popped out to have a look. I'm from Nigeria, so these patriarchal behaviours are kinda accepted from most of the ethnic groups and communities there and the wife just has to live with it, unless she's got a supportive family. I might understand what you are all saying about the husband, but advising her to leave or react for these reasons could lead to much more disaster for the OP.