My life seems perfect but I am miserable

"My life seems perfect but I am miserable" is a sentence I can 100% agree with. I have been very happily married for nearly 20 years, two great kids, my wife makes enough that I am a house husband, yet I am depressed all the time. I don't fucking understand it.

Don't think that finding a mate and having great kids will always fix things. But, for what it is worth, let me impart some brutal wisdom.

Men only want sex from me.

A man could just as easily complain "women only want flowers from me". Men are biologically driven to need sex like they need food. Women bond over psychological intimacy, but men bond over physical intimacy. I'm not saying you should be easy, but if you seem like an ice queen, no guy will be interested. They are simply not wired that way and denying this basic reality is a sure fire route to loneliness.

Sorry, but you've been watching too many romance movies. Real life is much more dull. A lot of guys are struggling to keep the lights on, spending money on flowers isn't a priority.

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