I stated in another comment that I have known them for a few years before we actually started dating so it’s not like I am a complete stranger and new to her. And also I realize she’s a little kid and can’t comprehend ideas and feelings of other people like adults too but when I say her dad has wants and needs too I mean in life in general. He obviously is going to want to have a relationship with me and for me and his daughter to have one too and it’s obviously not going to be a deep relationship at first since she’s a kid and I have to gain her trust but I just meant he can’t solely focus on what she wants and has what she says goes because he has feelings about this situation too. And I’m not offended that she wants to spend time with only her dad seeing how I’m the one that suggested it to my boyfriend, I was just upset that she said when she’s here she only wants to spend the weekends with her dad strictly and no time with me since I want to have a relationship with her too. And I understand I am still new to her since now I’m actually dating her dad so that’s different than us just being friends and we all have to get use to this. Before when I asked her I would ask like “do you want to go here with you and your dad?” She would say no she wants me to join. And even if I didn’t ask at all and wasn’t going to go she’d go out of her way to ask me to join so it’s not like I was pressuring her in anyway to make it feel like it’s obligated I go. I’ve never forced myself onto her and always ask her how she feels about things and what she wants to do and I know she might feel pressured in some ways since she’s a kid but I’m doing it in the most genuine and considerate way because I truly do care about her and what she thinks and feels