Yeah I mean you basically made my point but better for me. I think I understand what you are saying:

-that there are a very select few whom surgery helps their self image

-at the same time encouraging many slightly dysphoric kids to transition in anyway is actually re-enforcing the old school gender stereotypes. If a girl can't act manly without transitioning to be biologically a male and a man can't act feminine without transitioning to a girl this breaks modern progressivism.

The only point where we differ is that of surgery. I reckon that SRS should be confined to people who will become suicidal if they don't get it not just anyone who wants it. They also must have some counseling. Why not anyone? Because of what I discussed in my previous comments. Surgery is actually far more brutal than the media lets on.

I think about this topic quite a bit. I was always an effeminate looking guy growing up, with no body hair, small arms and low aggression. I was also relentlessly bullied for dressing "feminine" at our mufty school with vicious rumors of homosexuality. If my parents/family were not solid in their morals I might have decided it would be easier to succumb to what my bullies thought about me.

In the end it turned out that puberty and self confidence fixed this.