Not the answer I was looking for when I said I felt like a Duff.

I understand your frustrations. I have my own with my very close friends. I know it's hard to stop comparing yourself but honestly the best thing to do is just focus on yourself. Find new friends. Ones that don't make you feel self conscious. Ones that you can let your personality out for real and shine, because in the end that's all that matters. Not everyone looks great at 70. Looks deteriorate with our bodies as we age. Personality doesn't. Yes there will always be someone better and to someone else that person may be you. But don't make it a competition. There are only losers at that game.

Stop thinking about what you look like. We are already as a people constantly judging each other. Find people who are real and down to earth. They don't care what you look like as long as you have a beautiful honest soul. If you're unhappy with your weight try eating healthier or workout. Meditating and yoga help tons. Do you boo boo. Live by that. I started Keto and while I did loose weight I still have more to go and I've been on and off my diet recently. But all that matters is that I am happy. Yes I struggle with my body image but I know I'm young so I'm just trying to enjoy my life and I refuse to let my body and all my wonderful flaws stop me from doing what I want. Comparing yourself will never make you feel good. You'll become anxious and loose confidence. Your differences make you just that, different. Special. Unique. Also we think we look worse than we actually do. We see what we want to see. So if you're looking for ugliness you'll find it. Look yourself in the mirror look in your eyes and tell yourself, you are beautiful, you are smart, you are talented, you have a great sense of humor, you can accomplish anything. Would you tell your best friend that she's disgusting or ugly and fat or anything similar to that? No? Look in the mirror, you are your best friend.

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