While I DO want to stay positive for you, I also want to be realistic. This person is trying to compare a relationship of marriage which includes children to yours, a relatively new relationship in length and age. For this persons parents, trying to make the relationship work in a way is easier, they had much more to lose. In your case, what’s tying you down? Just your feelings, nothing else really.

I also think you should be honest with yourself and acknowledge whether or not you’re mature enough to move past this. It takes A LOT of mental strength to move on. To always be on edge wondering if he’s doing it again...It’s true that people make mistakes and that no one is perfect, but have YOU made this mistake? You’ve been in the relationship just as long and can you imagine doing what he did? And for the part of him not knowing why he did this, he’s lying. Deep down he knows why and he’s not telling you. Ask yourself the same question, whenever you do something, do you know why? You do, he does as well.

And at the end of the day, the question of what would’ve happened if you hadn’t catch him will linger. What if? What if you didn’t catch him and what if the girl reciprocated and share her nudes with him? So is he sorry he did this? Or is he sorry he got caught? I truly wish you the best and that you both get through this. I’m just trying to be honest and realistic with you.