hot take,

i’d say this is emotional abuse because you are being “forced” (pressured) by someone else to do something with your body. some people may find it difficult to find fun or happiness in dancing because they could be disconnected from their body. or disconnected from others around them. they cannot display fun, probably because others hurt them and continue to.

Which, I would say is abuse.

if you display anger, when challenging what they consider is abuse, that is all your anger. you did not experience their memory. they tried so hard to put their experience into words, and you took it and made it your problem and continued to not validate their feelings, which they will never display any emotion around you from now on.