Yeah, I can see how that'd be annoying. I didn't factor in the "not to stereotype" comment into my response. Mostly, as I said, I give them the benefit of the doubt. I think that is an issue of poor communication rather than malicious intent.

My theory is that those who are quick to be dismissive don't truly understand what it's like to come from a repressed/oppressed background. You don't know a lot of things because all you've ever heard is hate and fear and you have questions that can be offensive.

When my gay friend got a bf, I remember asking "who's the man and who's the woman?" and I still cringe so hard at that. I asked because that's shit my mom would say and as far as I knew, relationships always had a man and a woman role. My friend could've told me to fuck off, as I'm sure many would have, but instead he was patient and explained reality. If the response I had gotten was "fuck off, you homophobic loser", I would've fucked right off back to Alabama thinking all gay folks must be assholes. Then y'all would've been in disbelief at how we could still have so many homophobes in 2020.

Moral of my story: don't be so quick to judge or get offended. Try to understand the intent and the question that is being asked instead of being hung up on a few words of the ignorant who don't know any better.