OMG This scream a " Harsh but Deserved " tag! (or HBD)

I will have to put ESH then... He shouldnt have called you out like that, its douchy and embarassing and he cannot complain to have a honest answer to that question. ESPECIALLY in front of her husband and other people!

But you are also an AH for not taking him aside to tell him his douchy behavior is worst then his performance in bed. You could have being the bigger person here and simply ask him to leave with both you and your husband to explain to him what he did wrong and why he is not the god that he think he is.

To be honest though, he totally deserved this public humiliation and I hope he learned from it instead of playing the victim, pretending it never happened or worst.

Still, ESH since there is no better ways to rate it.