This is the best advice so far.

I know a fun-loving, wild guy who never intended on settling down. At 22, he got his gf pregnant and was forced to become a dad against his wishes. At the time, these were the three pathways he could have chosen:

1.) Learn to put someone else’s needs above his own and do the best he can to be a good partner and father.

2.) Continue to put his own needs above others and leave the baby and gf but complete his obligations (child support).

3.) Continue to put his needs above others but also try to be a good partner and father.

Unfortunately, he chose #3. At first glance, it seems like the most sensible option but in reality, you’re attempting to do the impossible. By putting his own needs above others, he failed spectacularly at being a good partner and father. This turmoil resulted in him losing his child, losing his job, failing in all romantic relationships, and becoming addicted to substances. To this day, he’s still putting himself first (such as blowing up at people and dating multiple women at once because he wants to have his cake and eat it too) and wondering why he hates himself and his life.

My point is, OP, choose to either commit or don’t but don’t do the halfway thing because you’ll end up causing a lot of problems for you and the people around you.