Last week, my wife made a comment that was accusatory… but that really hit a nerve.

I nearly hung up on her. We lost reception, so I just let it go. But I was stewing. I opened up the voice memo snd let it have it.

She won’t hear it. I will delete it after typing this. I should have already.

When she called back, I’d let go of the anger by ranting into the phone. I let her know how I felt. She got upset, Admitted she knew what she said was false, that she’d been upset and stressed and she even knew it was wrong as she was saying it (but couldn’t help herself).

We then talked about the things she was upset about. After she profusely apologized. And later she did what she could to make it up to me.

However… there was one part of our discussion that was me apologizing instead. I’d made a comment that she had taken as criticism of her, that had hurt. It wasn’t even what I said, but how what I said interacted with how she was feeling about a different topic. It was valid— I’ve been burned out recently myself, and not rising to the occasion when I could have.

Point is… communication is key. You need to talk about… - why she is so upset - why she went to those lengths - what parts of said criticism were valid - how you can fix what can be fixed - what motivated the rant - how to not hit this point in the future