TLDR: learn to identify red flags. They could cost you your life.
This is long so sorry. This happened to me in 2009. I was living with this girl I met through mutual friends. She was hot to say the least. After 2 months of dating and fucking, she moves in with me (red flag? i was still young and didnt know any better). Months go by. I find out she takes anti-psychotic meds. At first I was ok with it (gotta mend broken wings...). One night I wake up, she is sitting in the corner of our room rocking back and forth crying. I ask her what is wrong, replies "the man in the corner wants me to kill you".... fuck
I take her on vacation. Private villa in southern Peru. Everything paid for. Really an experience of a lifetime. Spends the 2 weeks beating on me and telling me I am a worthless piece. I will never amount to anything.
We return state side. 1 month later (the last month we are together). Go out for her birthday. Some bachelorette comes up to me and says "you dont look like your having a good time. want to dance? I get married in a week". Gf sees this girl talking to me and runs up and punches her in the face (gf wore goth rings). Girl is bleeding all over the place. Cops get called, gf doesnt get in trouble. Instead she tells the girl she punched that to make it up to her she can buy her 3 drinks of her choice, and has to do her a favor. I found out that favor was she forced her to kiss her feet and then lick her vag (like some sort of animal displaying dominance).
Car ride home I'm driving on I-95 ~75mph she sucker punches me in the side of the head, head hits driver-side window and I almost lose control of the car (I was fortunate enough to have had really good driving lesson when I was younger... merc E55 helped too I guess). We get home she goes up to our bedroom. I stay downstairs and watch some tv... needed to relax. 30 min later she comes down and yells "why are you not upstairs fucking your gf" and I told her I would be up in a min. 5 min later she comes down and throws 2 beer bottles at me.
Now I REALLY don't want to go up and decided I would sleep on the couch. 5 min later she comes down grabs a kitchen knife and charges me. I did muay thai for years so I knock knife out of her hand and bear hug her to restrain her. She bites a chunk out of my side (rib area). I put her in a clinch "tiger kneed" her in the face (I had, had enough. Months of psychological torture, of being belittled, of being told I was worthless... all of my anger and resentment went into that knee). GF out cold. Blood everywhere. Jaw completely fucked. Girl is convulsing on the floor. Damn did I kill her?!
She goes to bed and I am mortified that I hit a woman (my single mom taught me better? right?... right?!)... didnt sleep at all.
I kicked her out the next day. She was not on the lease and while she was at work I changed the locks and put her shit outside and called her parents to pick it up.
The next 2 weeks brought: Fake pregnancies, fake miscarriages, cops called on me. Arrest warrant out for me. The works. I beat the cruiser who was on his way to arrest me and went to the police station. I had her prescription in hand and told them everything. Police chief comes down and tells me these things happen, and that he cannot legally tell me this but if I "happened to get out of the country and had a place to go within 3 days" I could go home. Shakes my hand, tells me that most domestic violence is female on male and that was that. 3 days later I am back in Peru (I am not peruvian). She got arrested, my warrant was dropped. GG.
I lost every friend I had. I lost my job. I withdrew from school with 7 days in the semester remaining, she told all my teachers I beat her up. She got ran train on by some junkies she started hanging out with and would send me text pics.
I found out years later that she became a stripper, had 2 kids, and is the definition of white trash. I got my shit together went back to school and now I have 3 bachelors, my own company, and even though I am single I have learned the valuable lesson of "UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE STICK YOUR DICK IN CRAZY".
There are plenty of women out there. Learn to identify signs and just pass on the crazies. Not worth it.