I didn't attack you personally. I said that way of thinking is naive, frankly dramatic and romanticized, and that you hadn't thought it through given the post it was in response to.

We live on through our kids genetically at best, but that's not what we're talking about here. You were suggesting that a woman with a sick husband should make a kid so she has a piece of her husband around in some form when she looks at the kid. I know you didn't mean literally, but still.

She said:

Eesh, recommending someone to have kids in this situation is a horrible idea. Neither of us have ever wanted any, thankfully. But how awful for a child to be brought about as a fix for their parent.

But you kept going on the topic. That's the cue to drop your idea and move on. I'm not calling you stupid like you WANT me to (to create more drama), but you sure don't get when to let someone be.

I don't have kids, myself, but I know that when people with them start telling others when to have them and for what purpose, that's a cue to say something. I know you're trying to help but you should know where the line is and when it's been crossed.