You're right, I should have broken up with him before hand. I wish I would have.

I know it sounds like I'm trying to make people feel sorry for me and half my reasons probably don't make sense to you, but I'm really not trying to sound like a victim.

All I'm trying to do is warn people.

Maybe you think it's bullshit, because you are convinced you or anybody else you care about never do it. But again, I thought I'd never in a million years do it either.

It's very easy to point fingers and call peoples scum, and awful and selfish. And hey, maybe every cheater in this thread is a little of all three. I know I felt that way when I did it and when I look back on it.

But...

Before I got caught in a situation with a mixed bag of circumstances I never thought I'd be a cheater. I ESPECIALLY never would have thought I'd cheat on the guy I did. But I did.

I even did what you're doing now: come in to cheating threads and get all pissed at the comments. Even leaving comments on the cheaters comments telling them they suck.

So, what I'm saying is: instead of finding a partner you'd "never want to cheat on" Find a partner that your comfortable sharing everything and I mean everything with.

I didn't realize my mistake until I was too far down the rabbit hole of cognitive dissonance,