When my ex left me. I was emotionally and verbally abusive. I think emotional and mental abuse is the same. I sought treatment when my ex left. I didn’t realize I was abusive until I got treatment. I knew I had issues, thought it was just anger. I read up on abuse, and I realized it was what I was doing. I got treatment and got better. But it was too late at that point to fix things between me and my ex. He was the reason I got better. I had been abused by my dad and past exes so it was all I knew in terms of showing love. I was controlling and would put him down. I would threaten to hurt myself if he left. When he left I realized I was abusive because of my mental health and I addressed those issues head on. It took over a year of intensive therapy and thousands of dollars. I no longer have those issues and it really changed my life. I wish it wasn’t too late with him, but I had to accept that.