Funny I used to have very similar experiences...but almost the reverse...
When I moved in with my ex, she was in her last year of law school, and not to be stereotypical, but that crowd can be very....well i won't label anything so you can infer what you like (the school was in the DC area, which can be very judgmental, if not downright pretentious, in regards to people's educational background).
Trying to put this into perspective a bit, because I don't think its the same scenario as /u/u875 ...
Maybe it was because when I talk to people, I come off as smart or something, or have some look, I don't know, but people always assume i'm intelligent. Or at least assume that i'm not a total fucking idiot.
Reason i mention this is because when we were living together, around ALL HER FRIENDS from law school, I don't recall OTHERS making any comments in regards to my education etc.. I was 29 years old, still hadn't finished community college (I've always been sort of an autodidact, among other reasons), I was operating a small franchise my father owned, taught myself how to trade just about any financial security and had been doing it profitably for years..
So I wasn't really doing shit, but had done enough to get by. What I REALLY wanted for MYSELF was to finish school, deep down. Being around all these, what i felt as overachievers essentially (as compared to myself, I've been doing JUST enough for years), was tough.
I remember one time we were at a wedding, in the bay area. My ex's old HS rival or something alongs those lines were there, Kate, a yoga instructor from LA. I mean Kate was just about the complete opposite of my ex, blonde, great personality...etc..
My ex was a narcissist but I loved her. I had always dated 'hotter' girls (my friends would say) but i was really attracted to her... Kate was like an 11, I could tell after talking to her for 5 minutes. All of this intensified my ex's defense toward this girl. Doesn't take too long before my ex announces, I don't remember what someone had asked her, that "plus, he's got a huge penis" to the 10 other well-to-do couples at this round table during dinner. No laughs, just a silent 'uu-uuh..?' for a good minute....it was super embarrassing, but i was used to this sort of behavior from her. I don't even have a huge dick either! lol (wait, i mean i do). Hours later, I would be accused of using this so called huge penis on Kate (it was so absurd, i'm just not that type of guy) and was attacked in my sleep...(lol, ahh the good ol days')...
Anyways this was all way too long, but she used to make a lot of comments regarding our sex lives, etc..things that would be private...to other people. The end result was me generally feeling like she said something super un-called, I didn't get it.
But this was HER THING...A way of fucking with me sometimes, and also validating (to others, maybe herself) why she kept me and, even though I was never 'challenged' by others.
/u/875 To people you don know very well , seriously, fuck them. For his family, I mean obviously we don know any details, but you seem to be supportive of your man. As long as his family knows that he makes you happy and vice versa, I think thats all that matters. I'm sure he contributes in A LOT of other ways too, its easy for an outsider to look in and say "oh this person does all the work." Too many people focus on money and breadwinners and all these concepts but there are other roles/duties/responsibilities that are very important as well.