that you place more value in your friends' ability to spend instead of placing value in your friends for who they are.
No, that's not what that means. What is your problem? Why do you insist on making these bizarre assumptions and accusations?
I do not value my friends based on their ability to spend. I value them based on their ability to be my friend. What does a friend mean to you? To me, it means a person I choose to spend my free time with. If that person makes it difficult for me to spend me free time with them, then they are not very good friends. I assume you are like me in that you want to have friends who are generally similar to you. For example, if none of your friends have a similar taste in movies as you, who are you going to see movies with?
Spending is similar. If there's a new bar in town that I want to try out, I'm going to go to it with the friends who are willing to spend money at the bar. Same goes for restaurants. Same goes with people who are willing to spend money on tickets to see local sports teams, or go to museums, or go to concerts, etc. Doing Things costs money. Is that news to you?
If I have friends who consistently refuse to do any of the above, when do they even have the opportunity to be my friends? When do we see each other? The answer is "rarely." And that's why our friendship slipped.
You seem incredibly salty about this. It's like you came here expecting to be validated, yet you encountered some significantly heavy resistance.
No, I came here to share my two cents with a commenter who expressed a similar situation. I did not expect someone to tell me they know my life and my friends better than I do. That's what you're doing. Your sticking your nose where it doesn't belong, where it isn't wanted, and where it has no value.
Remember, there's always 2 sides to the story.
Yes: mine and theirs. Not yours. You might think that you are attempting to shed light on their perspective, but as I've told you before, literally every point you've made is irrelevant as it doesn't accurate depict their lives. You suggest that this is because they're married, but it happened to each of them individually before they got married. You suggest that they want to spend more time with each other, but they actually spend even more time with us (or want to). At what point will you concede that you are wrong? Because you are wrong. I've established this several times. You have nothing to contribute whatsoever. And by backpedaling further and further, insulting me further and further, you simply illustrate that you're a petulant child who doesn't know when to stop.
This is something I feel like I educate a Redditor on almost every day: not everything is an argument you can win. I made a post. That post did not require your response. It did not require your perspective. It did not require your input. Additionally, your perspective was not only not required, it was not relevant to the facts of the situation - as I stated very early on. You need to stop posting, ideally admit you're wrong (but we both know you won't do that), and move on with the newly gained understanding that you are not a special genius whose purpose is to enlighten everyone