My mother offered me to her friends (sexually) when I was 14-17 and tried to bully me into it, then gas lights me when I refuse. --- Lol, he must be gay or shy. He's such a party pooper

Homeless at 17, I go to a shelter with my (also homeless) girlfriend -- They would only speak to my girlfriend despite me being in front of them We can take you in, but not your boyfriend as there are vulnerable women and children here. We could give him a blanket and he could sleep outside but make sure it's across the street so not make the families who need to get in uncomfortable.

Later that night, we finally found a place that would also take me in. I got raped by a woman. lay back and take it or I'll keep raising my voice and we know what happens then."

A few months later, I finally get the courage to go see a doctor for help, I ask for counselling for the rape and the fact that I had to leave my brothers and sister behind with my mom. lol, Mr Jam, stop bothering me with your whining, dust yourself off and make something of yourself. I couldn't give you counselling even if I wanted to, we have stopped that service They had given my girlfriend counselling without her even asking a few days prior.

fast forward 12 years, the whole time I've been a carer for my girlfriend (who came from a much more fucked up situation than I did, so was worse off from the start), She often breaks down in public. Everyone starts looking at me like I''m abusive, people come over and ask if she's okay while glaring at me. She gets facebook messages offering her a place to stay away from me. She will explain that I'm a good person but, they'll tell her that's the abuse talking.

If you don't have support at home, you won't get it from anyone else. People who don't know you don't care what you are, only that you have nothing to give them.

TL;DR: A lot of people got away with abusing me, mostly because I'm male. I'm constantly stereo typed as the abuser and I'm dismissed as whiney when I ask for help.