If you care about the kids and want to spend significant time with them, don’t move out until you and your stbx have agreed on a parenting schedule and both are ready/willing to abide by it. Have it entered in the courts too. But talk to your kids before you go. Let them know what changes are coming. Have the difficult conversations! It is their lives changing and they have no options.

If you don’t want to leave, don’t. But follow your attorney’s advice.

I moved out with my child. STBX and I had an agreed schedule but they do not wish to follow it until the whole divorce process is complete. This means my child 1) doesn’t see stbx and 2) is settling into a new routine without switching of houses. My child’s routine was disrupted by the move and will have another disruption if stbx ever wants to see the kid. I can tell you my child is very unlikely to ever spend time with my stbx. My child feels so abandoned by my stbx. It’s so very sad and I didn’t see it coming. I thought they would start switching the moment I moved out. Sadly you can’t make your stbx a better parent than they are willing to be.