Thank you! Z and I have an amazing bond that very few people could possibly understand.

We compliment each other perfectly. It's like we were made for each other. We've been together for 23 years and I used to believe we'd never ever be in love, or be attracted to each other.

But that changed last year, and my life has been transformed almost overnight into the happiest, most dream-like life I could never have even imagined.

I hear what you're saying about the poly thing.

I know this is stupid and wrong, but I feel it anyway - that Zizi and I are more like one person than two, and that our relationship with another person would be closer to monoamorous than poly.

I know that we'd be physically 3 people, but I am literally never apart from Z. We are together within arms reach at all times and we love it.

I was hoping we could meet a girl who could accept us being this way, and aside from the sexual dynamics, treat us as one person.

It's probably completely unrealistic. I'm sure you're right, that we've concocted a mould that we want someone to fit into.

I do feel I can predict how my girlfriend (Z) would react to having a girlfriend - at least - as well as I can predict myself, without knowing anything about the girl. We are in sync and I know her better than she knows herself, and the same for her for me.

But I see the wisdom in what you say. I know it'd affect our current relationship. We'd both dedicate our lives to her. Our life would stop revolving around ourselves, which is really stressful - part of the reason I want to be cared for and protected and owned.

Sorry if what I've said is frustrating. I'm trying to be realistic about things, but at the same time I am full of romantic dreams, haha.

The reality is anyway, that with my severe anxiety, and with the many issues we are yet to face up to in our lives, there is virtually no chance we will ever meet anyone.

Thank you for your message. I appreciate you taking the time.