I am only shy of one month after finding out that he was hiding a gf that he started dating when we were working on things. Explained a whole lot actually. 9 years together, my 14 year old kids that thought he hung the actual moon are devastated beyond belief, and I don't think I'll ever get over him..... ever. Your post sounds exactly like I feel and expect to feel for the rest of my life. I just keep grasping onto anything and anyone who might take this pain away for even a second. I know the feeling. I've figured out that no one is going to have any good advice for me. No one is going to be able to do anything, and he was the love of my life. It's the biggest piece of b.s. I could have ever imagined living.