this sounds JUST like my relationship.. except that he’s the main bread winner and his child (who i love and have a relationship with) is not my child.

he wakes me up if he can’t sleep because he’s angry that i can, and says it’s because he works so hard to support us while i don’t do anything (i’m a part time student with two part time jobs and i run our house, cooking and cleaning and caring for his son). he forces me to beg him for sex, even if i don’t want it, and will reject me by saying things like “hotter girls who are better at it are going to do it instead of you”. he does this because he says i don’t appreciate him enough sexually and i should understand what it feels like to be rejected. when he picks fights with me i try to say as little as possible bc it all just adds fuel to his fire, and everything i say he finds a way to use against me.

i’m saving up to leave but i know if i do i’ll never see his son again and my heart is just broken. i just want the loving man i met, back, but i know it’s just... gone.

thank you for sharing your story. i’m sorry you feel trapped. i understand.