Eh, post was updated before I could finish typing it up...so I suppose this list is null now. I'll post anyway...and again these are essentials for me because they fit so perfectly into the game and feel like a major update or something...
To be honest, "essentials" really depend on the type of playthrough you prefer to take. Immersion mods are my most favorite.
So these is essentially...the essentials for me...
I may have missed some and will add them later when I can check NMM. In fact, I removed roughly 50+ from this list (visuals and textures mainly).
SKSE and SKYUI are a given.
...damn I spent far too much time typing this only to realize too late it wasn't what was wanted.