For me, it filled the 'psycho-spiritual' social commentary gap I was looking for.

I looked high and low on youtube, and I couldn't find an adequate muslimah space online that talked about issues I was facing. Most of them dodged these topics like the plague or danced around them lightly. Only muslimah space that even got close is Honest Tea Talk, but it still wasn't pin-point accurate enough.

I am a fan of 'social' commentary and psycho-spiritual content, and I was dealing with behaviour from my family like dysfunctionality and abuse, that these channels were openly talking about, and it was all accurate to my experiences. They did it from a 'dating' angle, but they still got straight to the point, and the tips were universal.

They weren't just lamenting about the problems (they are against that), or wallowing in misery, but they also offered solutions (that don't involve harming other people). These channels don't have the femcel mentality that the forums do, even if they share similar philosophies.

These problems of dysfunctional communities and toxic mentality from childhood/parenting (which sets a lot of woman up in marriage to be used/abused) are really not talked about enough in muslim communities and tbh muslimahs and muslims who say it's a non-issue are precisely the folks I steer clear from because a lot of those very people are the enablers of spiritual and emotional abuse in their communities, whether they are aware of it or not.

The black femininity community pretty much ticked every one of those boxes of what I was looking for and taught me to be aware of certain red flags among certain people. (not just men, but woman and parents, and even myself as well). And they openly talked about these issues rampant in said communities and worked towards fixing them.

So that's why I was drawn to these spaces. It wasn't for gaining money, or improving my appearence. It was to improve my life. These communities just happened to have these parts attached to them.

How I apply this knowledge is up to me. I don't believe everything they say and I know what information to discard and use. I store this information within myself and when I am confronted in the future with life-altering decisions, or things that involve my rights and boundaries, I know what steps I should take that would benefit my well being the most (especially when I mix it with Islamic knowledge first). And I feel more 'prepared' in general for the future, when I DO have the resources to improve my life.

It has also helped me to revamp the toxic mentality towards self-care I used to have.

Of course I'm not blindly following this group. It has it's flaws. But for me the merits outweight the flaws.