I hate my boyfriend, and think he is verbally and emotionally abusive. We fight constantly. He's constantly angry at me, and I'm constantly depressed. The other night we got in a huge fight and he threatened to kill my cats because of it. I'd been crying because I didn't understand why he was angry at me again, and it pissed him off that I wouldn't go away and kept pushing him to talk to me, and so he threatened my pets. He doesn't see the big deal. Yesterday we ended up in a screaming match because earlier in the day I'd made a comment asking him to please not antagonize me after he'd said something antagonistic, and hours later he was still livid that I'd had the audacity to say that. There's so much more. He's always so angry with me, or jealous, or needing to tear me down and tell me all the things that are wrong with me. He thinks all of it is my fault, and he has a laundry list of things I do wrong. Most recently it's my depression, and that I won't get counseling. I've tried to tell him that I've been upset because of our relationship, and that I'll go to counseling but I need him to go to something with me, because right now all the counselor is going to be able to do is say "leave". He just gets more angry at the suggestion we go to something together.

I don't tell anyone else about how bad it is. All of our friends are mutual, and I'm scared that if I said anything he'd lose all his friends. My family all adore him, and I really don't want to upset them or make them worry. It's not the first time I've been in a relationship like this, and my family is so happy that I finally found a "great guy who actually loves me". I feel incredibly pathetic that I ended up in another relationship like this.