I don't think we're going to be able to find common ground here. And at the end of the day, it really doesn't matter. People have different opinions and perspectives. I've expressed mine, you've expressed yours. I understand that mine are unpopular in today's society and culture, but I will not change them, no matter how many downvotes I get ;). If I were to ever find a girl to date she would in no way have to be a virgin, all I'm asking for here is a girl who hasn't had casual sex. If she's had 5 previous boyfriends that she's cared for and she's had sex with, I'm a-okay with that. If she's gone out to bars and had casual sex with 5 strangers for whatever reasons, I'm not okay with that. I think it's extremely trashy behavior and I have no respect nor tolerance for it or those women.
The bigger and much more important point is this: I guarantee I'm not the only man on this planet who feels that way. I'm sure there are many "normie" men who have no desire to date a woman who has casual sex. You can pretend that the points I'm making are solely because I'm a bitter and jealous FA. But if I were not me (as in, if I was a "normie" male just stopping in and joining this conversation with the same viewpoint) you wouldn't be drawing the same conclusions here. As much as you and the feminists try to pretend otherwise, my views really are not that wildly uncommon among the general populace.
Now at the same time, there are just as many men who don't care and would date a woman who has had 100 sexual partners. And of course every woman who engages in casual sex is duly enraged at the idea of a man NOT finding her behavior "liberated" "powerful" and "sexy" and instead finding it trashy. Women are really offended by this and I won't apologize for that. Sorry, not all men find promiscuity sexy.
Imagine if I were a woman and expressing all the same viewpoints. Imagine, a woman who thinks women who have casual sex are trashy. Would your response be the same? Even more shocking than MY views, there are real-life women who agree with everything I'm saying. Look into the anti-feminism movement. Are they just bitter and jealous? What about religious men and women everywhere who save themselves for marriage? Are they just nuts who are deluded for not agreeing with the feminists too? I'm just trying to shed some light on how the fact that I am male, and on top of that a virgin FA, influences the response here.
This wouldn't be a big deal if I wasn't a virgin. It's simply that an FA who is a virgin who has conservative sexual views is seen in a certain way. This in and of itself is simply another erroneous stereotype perpetuated by feminists. As if I'm somehow trying to make it so women cannot have sex whenever and with whomever they please simply because I cannot get sex? Nope, they can go right ahead and do whatever. All I'm saying is I personally would never date that woman. That is my prerogative.
Reddit itself is a terrible medium for this type of conversation, for one, because the vast majority of its users are young, extremely liberal, and of course there are entire subs dedicated to attacking men like me for daring to not buy into the groupthink. Life is all about perspective man. I've enjoyed our debate, but unfortunately in this case I think we have to agree to disagree. Neither of us are going to change our views and I just don't see us being able to find common ground here.