Welp after reading other comments this isn't so bad, but my dad: - offered to drive some of my high school team mates to an early morning match, and then screamed at one of them for not having their house number visible from the street. I didn't know her super well, and he had never met her, but he was bellowing that if an ambulance was on their way to her house, she would die because they would never be able to find her. This was in front of three other terrified 16 year old girls, who I also had only recently met. We still had a 45 minute drive to go after that. - loudly, 'jokingly' threatened my male friend with death at said friend's serving job (we were teenagers at the time), because he was a boy who was my friend (never dated even a little bit) - stopped one of my wedding guests, who is black, on their way to the ceremony and said "excuse me, there's a wedding happening here" with the heavy implication that he was not invited/welcome (the ceremony was at a public park) - during his toast at my wedding, not only outed me to my entire family for smoking pot (my mom is incredibly conservative with alcohol and drugs), but created a story about how in high school he saw me drunkenly stumbling down an alley behind my uncles house in a skirt "that I never would have been allowed to leave the house in". That incident never happened. Oh and he lightly alluded to a time where he smacked me because I wasn't getting ready for school fast enough. He also, with a straight face, talked about how difficult my birth was for HIM, and generally just gave an awful cringey speech but also said that he loved me a lot and still talks about how great his speech was.