So first a little background; Dated this girl for 2 years out of HS. Lived together for a year and then had to live separately for a year because my parents have a heavy christian background and didn't approve before marriage.
She had moved up to my college town, me going to school, her not. So I pushed her to get a job at a local restaurant (she was in to culinary, we actually really met in a culinary class). She does get the job and really enjoys it. Everything is chilling and life is good...
Fast forward half way through the year. We are living in the same apartment complex literally 50 feet away. We go back and forth between apartments and everything is great. At this point I should mention all of my friends had been cautious of this girl and told me multiple times I should get out. I being a head over heels dumbass thought they were all wrong (I know I'm stupid) and I put off everything for this girl.
One night she gets off work and is not feeling great. Tough day I assume. I'm still at work when she posts "I wish I had cookies right now" on FB. So me being a good boyfriend stop by the store on the way home from work and get those dank christmas sugar cookies that safeway sells. I bake em up and send her a text telling her to come over and get some cookies and cuddles.
Here's where it all goes to shit. She responds she doesn't want to come over to my place less than 50 feet away. This is like 7th time in two weeks shes refused to come over to my place (she didn't like one of my roomies, I think because he really didn't like her because he saw through her BS). I get frustrated and just go drop off the cookies and go back to my place. She proceeds to break up with me over the phone, no not via phone call, but through a fucking text message.
I'm in denial freaking out, what did I do wrong? Was it something I said? Why is she doing this? She claims that we just need a break (we woo warning flags pop up everywhere). I say alright that's fine I respect you so I will give you your space.
Weeks pass. I leave town for a week and come back to find she is now sleeping with and dating her coworker at the job I pushed her to get. The worst part is because she lives directly across from my place I get to see everyday her bring this guy over. I should mention this is the week before finals and this discovery causes me to start drinking like a fish. My liver still hates me for this to this day.
So at this point I've left her alone for weeks and honestly just want some closure that's better than "lets take a break for a little bit" over text message. So I see her in the parking lot and ask to talk. And I shit you not she completely ignores me. Doesn't even look in my direction walks away and in to her place. I was stunned. What did I do to deserve this?
Flash forward through a few months of intense depression, heavy drinking, and some other stuff I'm really not proud of. I find out that her and the new BF had been talking for some time and that I was a burden to her "or something like that" and she considers what she did and how she did it to be somehow honorable to me.
This event in my life wasted 2 of the 4 years "best years of my life" on a girl not worth a minute of my time. I have a super difficult time trusting women now and a drinking problem that follows me around. I've met some new people and I'm moving forward in life but I'm about a year set back from those finals I did not do well on. I'm dating someone new and she seems really nice. What my ex did to me though will stay with me forever and honestly I could never forgive her.
TL;DR: 2 year GF breaks up with me over text message needing a break. Immediately starts dating coworker at job I pushed her to get. Ignores me completely. All right before finals. Sends me in to drinking and depression spiral that fucked over a year of my life. Very hard lesson learned. LISTEN TO YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY. Sometimes you can't see what's right in front of you and one day its going to hit you in the face like a semi-truck.