Thanks. Luckily I am moving I'm with them soon while o wait for my place and even have a job lined up at their school. My place is less than 10 minutes away and I am making sure that I am close by. They're are close to being of age and I want to be there for whatever they may need. It's a very tough situation. And besides for the lgbtq stuff I do agree with alot of their parenting. But the lgbtq stuff is pretty huge in my book and causes me alot of guilt, I didn't even consider this issue when choosing them as adoptive parents...my daughter told me today she is very grateful she can talk to me and thanked me for being so supportive that right there was worth it. I want her to feel and know she is loved and supported no matter what. I tell her all the time how proud I am of her and compliment her often on her talents and attributes. I also tell her she has a human being has value and that value never lessens even when she does "bad" things. I'm trying to help isntill self worth and self love into her but that's a rough one for alot of people. I'm only human and I have been facing this moral dilemma about the bra and other things for a few months and just want to make sure I am doing right by all involved.