I wish we had never adopted this kid.

Read your post and laughed. Why? My parents did the exact same thing. Adopted a boy when he was a baby from a mom and dad with a very similar story to your Nate's parents. My parent's tried everything, spend thousands and thousands trying to help him. He received tough love and soft. But in the end it tore my parents apart and they ended up divorcing. The boy (now 22) lives with my dad. My dad is the sole carer and bullies my dad (my dad is a short quiet man) and he literally walks all over him and treats him like shit, threatens him etc. I remember getting into shouting matches with him based on how he'd talked and treated my dad. It was a living nightmare for years. Not knowing when he'd switch. Now my little sister (17) lives with my mom. And I live on my own. We don't have a relationship with my dad. Everyone goes about how adoption is such a good thing etc it has been nothing hell for us. I truly wished they never brought this kid into our lives. It sounds fucking horrible to say but having lived it - it has put me off adopting. I rather not have kids at all than take a gamble and end up with someone like that.

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