I was similar. I spent my twenties building a life that was child unfriendly. I told everyone I didn’t want kids, and genuinely believed it. All of my preferences seemed incompatible with a kid. And I was teacher- I knew what kids were like and did not want that at home. I researched getting sterilised and only didn’t go through with it because it wouldn’t have stopped my periods.

When I met my husband, it changed. I couldn’t explain why, but what I wanted from life just changed. I went from wanting a city apartment with lots of travel and an impulsive social life to wanting marriage, kids and a settled life.

It won’t happen for everyone or maybe even most people. But I never would have guessed it would happen to me.