3. World's first baby born from frozen ovary, collected during the mother's childho...

World's first baby born from frozen ovary, collected during the mother's childhood

With all due respect, and I mean this honestly. You wouldn't understand unless you've looked at death in the face.

My wife and I were married 3 years ago. Last year, we noticed bleeding after sex and long story short...it was cervical cancer. My wife comes from a wonderful family and is the only girl out of a family of four kids. She studied hard, we saved and waited to have kids until we could make sure we had a great life for him/her. My immigration bills are our budget for kids, but I wasn't fussed about having kids...ever.

During her diagnosis and pre-treatment, she cried a lot and turned into the exact opposite of who I married. She was vulnerable, not engaged and had a mind that wandered. It tore her apart and she wanted options that would help have a biological child with me someday. She's accomplished, has a great career, family's wealthy...the whole shebang. Her lifelong dream is to have a kid of her own.

After the IVF and rush to preserve what we could, she was then rushed to chemo to fight and early-staged aggressive strain. In that time period, my outlook on kids changed. She's now healthy, we've got 5 frozen embryos and they're her only hope to have bio-kids. She has everything she's ever wanted and if the cancer ever came back, I'd feel horrible if I couldn't have a kid with her. If that's what keeps her staying positive and looking forward (rather than focussing on the harsh reality), I'm all for it. And if something ever happened to my wife, that kid would be all I've got.

It's selfish, but we're not looking for a litter. Just one miracle kid. We make great money and have the means to care for the kid. I never wanted to be a dad, but a few months back, I got caught up in a Sigur Ros song on a plane and started tearing up. I texted my wife to apologize profusely for not being supportive during IVF and wanted to go on with the kid situation. I realized that life without a wife or a kid would be kind of empty for me. I volunteer with kids and it's just not the same. I see my nieces and nephews in the states more than I see the ones down the road. It's not the same.

Life without a bio-kid has a different meaning for lots of people. I once held the same opinions (still do), but I cannot fathom sending my wife away to rest eternally (I hope it never happens when I'm alive) without seeing the one thing she wanted more than anything in the world. And, if anything would happen to her, have the privilege of raising a beautiful kid someday to talk to it about a life and amazing times I once experienced.

I hope the cancer never comes back and we're able to find a surrogate someday. I'd do anything for her to have her experience a child -- even if she's not able to. Carry it herself.

As I sit here now, I await my turn in the blood donation line. For now, this is all I can do to benefit touching someone else's life. We can't adopt because she's in remission and fostering isn't easy to do with our jobs. :-(

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