I have both. I assume my HSV 1 is oral and my HSV 2 is genital. I get outbreaks in both areas (not really so much anymore praise valacyclovir!) but NOT at the same time.
My oral outbreaks are worse. That's when I get full body aches swollen glands fatigue... and they HURT. It's hard to eat and everything. They are way better than when I was a teen though- literally my entire mouth would be covered with sores and I'd have to stay home from school sometimes. It hurt to talk. And I'd get them almost constantly. As soon as one healed I'd get another one. Good thing I wasn't dating lol. I was a late bloomer...
Genital outbreaks are barely noticeable. Sometimes I get sore lymphs in my groin. But the outbreaks are tiny and last like 2-3 days with meds. I think they were more painful when I was younger because they'd have to crust over and ugggh and I was unaware of having it but the outbreaks were infrequent.
Overall hasn't affected my dating life that much. I've also had both my whole life pretty much (I'm 27) I caught both as a young kid from idk normal way you catch coldsores as a kid and type 2 from sexual abuse.
I think it forces a level of intimacy when I disclose. I usually tell people I have HSV 1&2 and I word it like that because herpes is a buzzword and they are more likely to Google HSV and find out it's herpes and then ask questions. I try and do it over an app sometimes I do it in person on a date. In my rougher substance abusing years I didn't always disclose and a lot of that had to do with just being too drunk to probably be sleeping with strangers. But that's what my life was like in my early 20s...
It's an excellent asshole filter. So what if the person is attractive if they act like I'm a leper it kind of shows they're a shitty person. I'm okay with people turning me down obviously I'm all about informed consent. At this point I'm basically immune to jerk comments about tainted pussy and I'll roll with the punches which pisses them off because they aren't getting to me lol. Most people I disclose to ask a few questions look stuff up and are okay with it once they realize the risk is not what they have been led to believe in sex Ed... it also has made me more adventurous because like what's the worst that can happen to me now?