Currently going through this process.
She constantly harps on and on about values. Loyalty, not being fake, not lying, telling the truth. The whole nine yards. But she can't help but lie and be exactly what she says she hates about other people.
A few examples:
One of the first things she said to people when I met her was she would never date anyone she worked with. Well first time ok maybe the guy was just super great. Second time? Ok someone is kidding themselves. After the 5th guy? She was obviously fucking lying. Or being that fake person she said she wouldn't be.
Next is she said she hates cheaters. Yea two of those guys were married. But oh it isn't a big deal their wives are crazy/or someone is leaving the other.
She hates fake people and liars? I who was supposedly her best friend was the last person to find out about the two married guys. How did I find out? Because I heard through other people about it and confronted her. Only after that did she admit it. Her reasoning? She didn't want me to be ashamed of her. And the icing on the cake is she refuses to tell a couple in our friend group because of several made up reasons. And how is one supposed to keep a secret from friends? By lying.
And the last big reason is that she always fucking has to be right. Like will refute statements she has said or reword her meanings just so that she can be right all the fucking time. Why did the light turn green right when I needed it to as we are driving somewhere? She did it. Why did another light turn red? Because I suck at driving. Why is it a shitty thing to lie and keep secrets from friends? Because they don't need to know shit about my life and I don't wanna tell them it's nothing they need to be worried about. But if I keep a secret from her I am a shitty person and a terrible friend. I have confronted her about the double standard and her reasoning is that there was some perceived fakeness going on and justified her while she NEEDS to be kept abreast of everything in other people's lives.
Writing this our I am realizing that I really hate the whole people are fake mentality now and just how tired of her shit I am.