But see - women can tell when you’re pressing. I’m similar ish to your wife. I’m fairly certain my partner felt similarly to you. But like - getting off my own is NOT the same as getting off with others, even if you feel like you’re just barely assisting. You’re not. There’s an emotional connection. There’s the physical stimulation of someone else touching us, even if it’s not in the “fun zone”. Like, it’s so much more even if you feel like you’re not making her finish.

And look - some folks just don’t understand clits. To be fair, they can also be finicky as fuck. They can be complicated. If your wife says she’s satisfied with your love life, listen to her.