[20/M] I absolutely cannot take being a kissless virgin any more. I need to get out of this hell.

Lol @ people saying he's arrogantly, self-centeredly shooting down "great advice", such as the apparently highly rated advice of "Go ask girls out on a date" by the username Pudgy_Ninja. This is pretty much exactly like telling a depressed person to cheer up, and when they say they cannot simply do that, proceed to a tantrum because the amazing advice wasn't taken heed of. The only reason people accept this same behaviour in the context of social anxiety, that effects once mating chances, is that it is socially acceptable and standard behaviour, and most peoples' imaginary capabilities are sadly limited by these confines of convention. Can't say I'm shocked, though, by the incapability of a well-adjusted person to understand that some people just don't have the accumulated storage of positive socio-sexual experiences to be easily able to talk to girls, let alone compete against people who have acquired all of those experiences.

I don't recommend you go ask girls out cold, like some here suggested, since lower level guys doing that will be labeled a creep, whereas superior level males get away with more of these sorts of violations of social code. Some antidepressants have also features that help with social anxiety, such as escitalopram(in contrast to antidepressants that help with depression but not with social anxiety e.g sertraline[Zoloft]). The downside is that they can have sexual side-effects. For me they did not, though, and they help way better than therapists. I stopped using them only because the confidence they gave me created an averse attitude to relying on medication, it's pretty funny. But it really boosted my confidence for a while and one girl even took interest in me then, which would never have happened otherwise, but due to lack of ability to manipulate the situation into a more sexual one(I'll chalk it up to a total lack of experience), she lost interest in me. It was still a small positive thing that happened because of it.

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