I might get a lot of hate for this but I need to get it off my chest after reading most of this thread.

I was 16 when I got pregnant with my son (obviously not planned). I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 4 months along, my son's father is a POS, my family is conservative and left me to fend for myself. I was completely alone. And yet, I still managed to complete high school and college while working and taking care of my son. I made the ADULT decision to have a child so I had to start acting like an ADULT. I didn't say "I didn't know" or "nobody told me/someone said x and y so I assumed." I did A TON of research, I busted my ass, I swallowed my pride, I went to school EVERY SINGLE day of my pregnancy. It seems like you AND your fiancé need to suck it up, do your OWN research (because only you really know how desperate your situation is/WHAT exactly your situation is. I keep seeing you go back and forth a lot on this thread), and take whatever resources you can get. And yes that sometimes means you have to go to frustrating places (like the VA or DPSS). It's no longer about how you "feel" or how "frustrating" it is.