So, basically you're planning to continue raising your children in an environment where Daddy is "aggressive and distant" from Mommy and "finds any reason" to fight and argue. An environment where they have to witness Daddy and Mommy fighting all the time. Where Daddy grabs and shoves Mommy and Mommy screams and cries. Where Daddy storms out and unpredictably doesn't come home. Where Mommy's not eating. Where Mommy only smiles when she's looking at her phone, off in fantasy land. Where occasionally they get introduced to Daddy's sl*t of the month and listen as she and Daddy fuck in the other room, while Mommy's away.

This is a FANTASTIC way to set your children up for life with crippling anxiety disorders and other psychological problems, eating disorders, drug problems, and/or propensity to get into abusive relationships or be abusers themselves - since that's how Daddy was.

And you're forcing this because you think others see you as the perfect little family and you can't bear to LOSE YOUR IMAGE. In other words, because of your own narcissism. That's fucked up and utterly sick.

So, you weren't really too concerned about the lifelong damage to your children before. But now that Jason is in the picture, another man giving YOU attention and making YOU feel good, suddenly you're beginning to fantasize about leaving. Because it would make YOU happy.

I think your attitude here is completely disgusting. The last thing you need is to leave a fucked up and gross relationship and bounce straight to another man.

Leave your fucked up husband and provide a stable and healthy environment for your children for at least 1 year before you launch yourself at another man. Learn to stand on your own 2 feet and find happiness without male attention, and without concern for your "perfect image" to other people.