Thank you for your kind words. He definitely has his wholesome qualities as a person and even as a partner sometimes which only seems to confuse me more. Yet as you correctly interpreted he likes to dictate a lot of things for me, even actions I should take at work with my own coworkers, or things I might question or think about politically (as examples). Even if he is trying to 'help' me, which he says he is, it just makes me feel even less confident in my own judgment and agency. It's not really conducive to being the positive person he prefers I guess. And this is all with me actively trying to address my mental health issues/PTSD. The vibe is that 'because your depression negatively affects ME (him), you need to sort it out '