Yes, I agree that my bad reaction was almost certainly the problem.

But as for why she didn't give me her number, it wasn't specific to me, as I later learned. Many of the rest of us have exchanged numbers, but she has been cagey with everyone about her contact info. As I said in the post, I am pretty sure it's because of her bit of Internet fame.

Regarding my therapist's analysis... I do think it is probably incorrect. But I had already realized I screwed up and shouldn't have displayed anger. I felt horrible about it. There was no need for my therapist to admonish me about that. What I did need was to stop dwelling on it and stop feeling guilty, and she helped me with that.