no not really. I don't feel safe at all. they have a lot of power over my life and I think they are pushing off getting the actual divorce paperwork so they can push me and get me to act out and use it against me

I've said terrible things to them but it's all been reactionary, when they are the most abusive it is verbal or was physical not in text where I could have evidence, and they have threatened all sorts of vindictive actions against me when I upset them

if I don't act in a way they want, they threaten me, usually it's "I won't be friends with someone like" then lists XYZ shitty traits they are describing as me, and the implication of "won't be friends" means they would actively work against me, they would fight custody away from me and stuff like that