No such thing as male genitals

You do realize there is a difference between sex and gender right?Literally every single definition of the word penis describes it as the male sex organ, and by male they're referring to sex, not gender, so honestly if your taking offence to that then that's on you not understanding the definition of words.

i have a penis, that doesnt make men who have sex with me gay or even bi.

You seem upset at the idea that someone attracted to you could be gay/bisexual which comes off as homophobic to me.

Comparing trans women who are women to crossdressers is dumb.

I'm not comparing them to people that simply crossdress, I'm comparing them to people that literally check all the boxes of a transwomen with the sole exception that they still identify as male, are you trying to deny these people exist? The don't just crossdress, they act feminine, and in a sense present themselves as female but are still comfortable saying they are a male.