YTA, and so is your husband.
Other posters have covered pretty much all the reasons why, and I hope you are feeling shame, remorse, and perhaps have started to open your eyes.
A couple things to note:
Stop trying to contact your daughter. Your behavior is simply reinforcing why she cut you out. It is also showing others why she was justified.
Don't try to force yourself into her life, don't try to force seeing the baby, or having any relationship with them whatsoever. You made your bed.
Get help. For both you and your husband, separately and together. You both have issues. I'd say look at divorcing, but I'm betting you are too far in to get out.
One day, if -IF- you are lucky and the gods grant you the opportunity - if your daughter reaches out, do NOT guilt trip, do not whine, do not do anything but accept full responsibility for your actions and those of your husband. Apologize, and be grateful for even the slightest crumb of contact she may give you - even if she doesn't let you meet her child(ren). If you do not ever understand why this is important, then you are never going to be worthy of her and her family.