A week before the wedding I text her to remind her about the booking cost and to tell her that my cousin would like to come and that if he comes it would make it cheaper for all of us since it’s one more person to split the house with. In the price I include the price of a midweek clean that was added at the time of booking. She gets upset and says that she wishes I had told her earlier since it’s an additional expense she wasn’t counting on(the house not the cleaning). She mentioned she has to renew her DACA ,move, pay two rents(her boyfriend pulled the trigger on them moving in last minute so she had to pay her apt rent and her part of the rent with him)and she cannot afford to pay 250$ per night for a house. She says “That’s already 1,400 in flight and stay without counting my dress and spending money” (I did not have a dress chosen for her. I told her to dress warm because we’ll get married in the snow- I gave her ideas “sweater dress, slacks with tights under, long dress, just make sure you’re warm” ) I reply that I had sent her the link with all the info before she decided to stay with us the link says the price. She then replies that she’ll have to find a way to shorten her stay because he has other huge expenses coming up.
I reply and apologize that there might have been miscommunication and tell her that I’ll remove or pay for the extra cleaning myself since I should have consulted with everyone before including it since it was something I chose and wasn’t included in the price from the link. I say that it and that it would be 220$ per night(keep in mind that hotels in that area start at 300$ per night. It’s an expensive ski resort) I also tell her that I understand that her circumstances have changed since we made the booking and that if she can only stay one or two nights I understand. I also offer to pay for flight change fees.
She then replies with a very very long text.
She mentions that I gave her less than a months notice(I’ve been telling her for a year that I wanted a mountain wedding and That she was invited and I told her where it would be since November and she was very aware of our situation with border restrictions and my husbands mother not being able to enter the US. I also cried multiple times while telling her about this in the months leading up to November) she mentions that she only has 10 vacation days per year and “don’t need to reiterate as you already know how hard I work. Vacation days are precious for me. On that same day you sent me a link of the house you had booked (without running with me if I could afford or offer alternative options)” I gave her an option and sent her all relevant info. She didn’t have to say yes to staying with us. the link had pricing and it’s up to her to determine what she can afford. I gave her an option but she could have said no. My husbands family stayed in hotel because they wanted privacy. It’s also not my responsibility to look for alternative options for her. It was her responsibility to tell me that the house was too expensive and she would not stay with us . Instead she said “I love it, it’s beautiful.” She could have said “I love it it’s beautiful but I’ll stay somewhere else”