NTA. But if I were you, I would pay for Jess’s wedding, her honeymoon, a down payment on her first home or years of her rent bills, a new car, give her a larger cut of inheritance than Penny or your wife, anything that would be grand enough to make it up to Jess. Because your father walking you down the aisle on the most important day of your life is priceless. Whatever you choose should be grand, and I mean GRAND, and not, and I mean NEVER, done for Penny. That is the only way to ingratiate yourself back to Jess.

Jess explicitly didn’t invite Penny to her wedding and she isn’t close to your wife. And her reaction to all this seems like a last straw. If Penny died, you might have lost both daughters in the same day.

I am sorry you were put into this position, but now that you know Penny is doing okay, you need to open your wallet wide if you expect Jess to ever speak to you again. Even if you did, I still wouldn’t blame her if she didn’t want to speak to you again anyway. If I were you, I’d do something grand without that expectation.