NTA. Conversation should have ended after you said you were uncomfortable telling her.

But also assuming she wasn't ready was kind of iffy. You don't know about other's situations.

By the time I was her age, I had already seen multiple deaths including infants.

If it was truly that you didn't want to bring up traumatic memories. Then no. You are not the asshole.

But if it was really that traumatic. I suspect you wouldn't still be a paramedic.

So I suspect you just used it as an excuse to protect her.

Some people are just different. Everyone experiences things differently.

But. I also can't tell if the mother actually knew her daughter could handle it. And the daughter was soo keen on it.

That I suspect she was probably like me. An obsession we with the macabre.

So no either way. You are not the asshole. They are for trying to get you to feed their obsession.

I would never push my obsession on others. I don't badger medical professionals to get their stories.

But some people do.

I'm at the point. Where I have seen the worst humanity has to offer. And it doesn't faze me.

When it comes to medical professionals. Either you become jaded. And the deaths no longer really affect you as much.

Or. It hits you too hard. And, as has happened with many medical professionals. You give up. And move to a different career.

My stepmom was also prepared from the beginning. She couldn't handle children's deaths. But she became an end of life therapist for terminally ill adults.

So it is good to know your limits.