This is Joes wife on his reditt, I saw this & wanted to comment. Were in a similar situation in our marriage. When I was pregnant with our son he would stay up all night and pass out in the chair in our living room watching tv. I would wake him up and take him in our bedroom. Where we slept with our daughter. Since our baby boy has been born he hasnt been coming to bed at all. My husbands moved into the living room on the couch. Weve fought about it time and time again. I miss our cuddles and waking up to the love of my life. Ive been having feelings and insecurities like hes cheating since hes not sleeping with me. I have since pretty much given up our baby boy is 6 months and I ended up getting him a queen sized futon pull out couch so he can sleep easier in the living room. At this point I sleep better with our baby without him. Though I still miss my husband. We don't have much if any romance passion, or intimacy in our relationship. I try to initiate intimacy and we do make love from time to time during the day. Its just not the same, and I hate imagining my husband with someone else. My mother spoke to both of us and said we need to start sleeping together again or at least make more time for us such as date nights. With us weve known each other for 20 years and have been friends for just as long. I think that sometimes hes so used to our comfortable friendship that he doesn't know how to be gallant. He's never been super romantic and im a hopeless romantic. We were sweethearts in school and he dosen't have much experience with anyone other then myself so I get it but its tough. I tell him that I want to be more intimate and have more affection and attention. Though ive been really stressed and depressed for so long I dont always accept him attempts with my walls that ive built up so high. So far weve talked through it. We know how eachother feel but at this point are still sleeping in separate rooms.