Your mother is a narcissist, and you seriously need to cut her from your life. Maybe - in a year or so - if she experiences the consequences of her behaviour she may tone it down - though I doubt it. Also I suggest you get cameras fitted inside and outside your home. I've read horror stories on here where obsessed mothers call CPS with bogus claims just so they can get custody - protect your family. If she gets any worse you may need to get the police involved and a restraining order. You may not think her behaviour is all that bad, after all you've lived with it your entire life and have adjusted accordingly - but trust me - THIS IS NOT NORMAL!