Is middle class different in America?? If its the same as the uk then you are much better off than most and really have 0 place to tell people worse off how to raise their kids at such a pivotal age... you'll be giving the arseholes a reason to kick their kids out, free of guilt.

If it is different then I'm sorry, but it sounds like you're the person that has had a relatively easy life and looks to those who've had it harder to try validate your feelings that your success is due to you and not at least like 75% circumstances like it is for everyone else.

Congrats on the 25% hard work you did to get there though, genuinely commendable for saving ect and having NINE kids. You must have the patience of a saint lmao.

You are on level with your peers who have the same privileges as you, those that are not, you should not assume to tell them how to achieve success as your path will be inevitably wildly different, easier or not. Your peers will slso be the only ones genuinely capable of giving you meaningful praise if that's what you're looking for.

Most of your life circumstances can be predicted based on your postcode. ( area code ) if that doesn't explain what I'm trying say here about privileged ect, idk what will.